how to recover financially after divorce

How to Recover Financially after Divorce

On this episode of A Wiser Retirement™ Podcast, Casey Smith, and Missie Beach, CFP®, CDFA®, discuss how to recover financially after divorce.

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When a couple decides to get divorced, an attorney is typically the first person to be contacted. While attorneys are well-trained in everything that has to do with the legal side of divorce, they’re not always very aware of the financial implications of a divorce. 

For this reason, a financial advisor who is also a Certified Divorce Financial Advisor® can work alongside the attorney through the divorce. Prior to the divorce being finalized, a CDFA® professional will try to help minimize the back and forth between attorneys and clients. They also help ensure that the assets are divided evenly and can forecast the client’s financial future while giving them an idea of what their normal will be. 

Many go into divorce thinking their life probably won’t change much, but actually, it does change drastically. After divorce, you often have to start from ground zero, and it’s up to you to create the life you want. Women who are or have been stay-at-home moms at the time of divorce often get too caught up with alimony. It’s important to remember that child support is only for a determined amount of time, and will not last forever. Many women need to shift their focus to reinventing themselves, networking, and understanding that they are capable of building or rebuilding a career. 

Steps to Recover Financially After Divorce

Gather All Financial Information

Take inventory of what was received in the settlement. It’s important to put together a binder with all that information. A lot of times things get divided but never executed, like 401Ks. A CDFA® professional helps with making sure that what the court said was supposed to have happened, actually did.

Create a Budget

In a divorce, women are often the ones who are in the dark in regard to the family’s financial situation. Even if you’re not planning on getting divorced, it’s important to become familiar with the family’s bank accounts. That way if a divorce is ever in sight, you know somewhat how to navigate your finances. Creating a budget after your divorce starts with cost cutting. For example, you could start by looking into your subscriptions, and canceling things that are not necessary anymore. 

Negotiate a Fair Settlement

In cases when clients reach out for help after the fact, unfortunately, it’s usually too late and there’s nothing that can be done. For this reason, even if you’re going through an amicable divorce we counsel that you seek representation, and have a team of people you trust behind you that you trust and know are working in your best interest. For spouses of business owners, it is equally essential to have an attorney who understands business evaluations and can catch any occasional discrepancies, either by mistake or malicious intent.

Dealing with Debt

Debt is actually a major cause of divorce. Frequently, clients end up having to add high attorney fees to existing debt. If that’s the situation you find yourself in, even if you cannot pay your debt off at the moment, create a debt-elimination plan. This will allow you to understand exactly how long it’s going to take to clear it. Do not forget to separate your debt from your ex’s. 

Most importantly, after becoming debt-free, build an emergency fund. Considering the emotional toll a divorce can take, after feeling more stable, you need to create a safety net. This will allow peace of mind, knowing that you are self-sufficient to take care of yourself during emergencies. 

Think of Your Future

After you have 3-6 months saved for emergencies, start thinking of your future. Start saving for retirement. While and if you can, max out your 401K and save as much as you can in your retirement accounts. This step takes wisdom and discipline, but if you got all the way here, you can go anywhere. 

Seek Financial Advice

Don’t try to do this alone because if you’re going through a divorce you already have too much to deal with. It is great to have a third party who can see things more clearly with financial expertise to guide you through this process. In conclusion, having someone to hold your hand during divorce can help minimize some of the hardships associated with it.

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0:00 Intro

10:23 Gather All Financial Information

11:50 Create a Budget

13:17 Negotiate a Fair Settlement

19:46 Dealing with Debt

22:30 Think of Your Future

25:40 Seek Financial Advice


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By Published On: March 13, 2023

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